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How to handle being Rejected after being diagnosed.

As we’ve spoken about in the past, there are no easy or right answers to any of the posts I make.  My fingers are still crossed that someday, someone will create a book titled              ” Handbook for the recently diagnosed” but until that day comes, ::cracks knuckles:: I will continue giving my unsolicited advice!

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Recently,  someone broke it off with me in the hospital, first she didn’t believed me because I didn’t reply to her text messages fast enough; probably because I was in the hospital.  She then proceeded to accuse me of Munchhausen syndrome until I showed her pictures and video chatted with her in the hospital. Finally, she called it off because   “it was too much drama”.  This is also someone who couldn’t miss an episode of Grey’s Anatomy, so the humor is not lost on me.

Now my first instinct was to put on my cape and cowl and demand justice but after a tumultuous nights sleep, I knew I needed to move on.

Remember the important people in your life, the people who have been there for you from through the hard times. Trust me, I know you’re mad, I know it hurts and I know it’s not fair. The best revenge is living the better life.

Imagine living in a world, where you are too afraid to love someone, just because you are afraid someone is going to die. In truth, I feel sorry for her, we’re all going to go at some point, but I don’t think wanting to live should be considered “Drama”

Remember to laugh,  do something new or old; go on a spontaneous adventure. For me, I love baking, seriously it’s a problem. I own so much flour my neighbors probably think I’m the reincarnation of Pablo Escobar. There’s something so cathartic about baking cookies and pies to me; it’s about control for me, the measurements have to be exactly right in order to have a great product.

Cry; ain’t nothing wrong with shedding a tear. As a man I’ve been taught to hold my tears back because it’s not considered “manly”. Whatever, I don’t ascribe to that toxic masculinity bullshit. Let it out man, it’s a part of the process and an important one at that.

Give yourself a reasonable time to talk about it. I would suggest a therapist if you don’t have one. Having said that, I know how expensive that can be. If that’s the case, I would suggest choosing a close friend to talk to about this.

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Never rely on a single person to give you a reason to live.  I don’t care how pretty they are, we all look silly putting our pants on one leg at a time. I know it’s easier said than done, but take this time away from your partner to realize what a catch you are. Also,  autonomy is important, while relationships are good, they also can mutate into co-dependency problems; so take advice from the former king of Pride Rock:

“Remember who you Are!” -Mufasa… R.I.P

After looking in a pool of your own glorious reflection for days or months, begin dating again. Love does exist, we just have a bigger hill to go up before we find it. The good thing, though, is that through this process, you will find the real people who will want to be in your life. People will always reveal their true selves to you during hard times; that’s our gift, that’s our curse but just like anything in life, it’s all in how you look at it.

Life is just a state of mind.

 

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Chemosabe: The Web Series episode 1

Hey All! A lot has been happening in the wonderful world of cancer! My mother who was diagnosed with cancer is finally doing better, I’m looking into different treatment options.

The last woman I dated decided that a relationship would not be in the cards, because my protein levels were too high. So don’t worry ladies ( All 2 of you who read this thing) I’m still single. Beware though, my cancer is a jealous sob who doesn’t like it when I go out with other gals.

What else… Oh that’s right! My web series is finally done! Right now, we’re slowly working out a couple kinks, but I’m proud to present to you all the very first episode of Chemosabe!

Thank you all for your love and patience! Also if anyone is looking for a great blog to read check out the the Cancer Chronicles http://boldbaldbattle.com it’s a great blog with with deep insights with thought provoking content! Definitely check out ” Dear Former Self” Without further ado

Chemosabe: The Web Series

 

Adventures of Being stuck alone on an elevator with a white woman

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While being stuck alone in the elevator with a white woman, I turned to her to make sure she was okay. As i turned around with my Captain Marvel comic (CAROL CORPS!) and my Dr. Strange Shirt, I was surprised to hear her blurt out “don’t hurt me, I don’t have any money or drugs!!” I quickly reassured her that I wasn’t “that type of black guy” while adding ” what do you take me for!?”
she laughed and quickly warmed up to me and took my advice on breathing. The elevator eventually moved again, but before she got off the elevator she wanted a hug for the help I had given her. As I hugged her I couldn’t help but ask ( knowing the answer) what made her think I wanted drugs? To make a long story short, she admitted that being alone in a elevator with a black man terrified her.
This. This reminds me of the time I went to visit a friend who was throwing a small get together. When her friend asked openly ” what music should we listen to” right when I opened my mouth to say something, the woman responded with ” We are NOT listening to rap music” …. I actually wanted to listen to the 80s, Madonna to be exact. I responded promptly with “Now how did you know I wanted the fried chicken”… This is something I deal with every day. NO JOKE. I can understand how a woman can feel uncomfortable being alone in a elevator with a man, I get it. It hurts, but I get it. What I don’t understand is how people can make assumptions about an entire race. 

It really is a shame, it’s not my job to make other people from different backgrounds feel comfortable, just like it’s not a woman’s job to respond or entertain these creeps on the street.

A FUNNY THING HAPPENED ON THE WAY TO THE DOCTORS OFFICE

 

A FUNNY THING HAPPENED ON THE WAY TO THE DOCTORS OFFICE

Directions: Taste the Rainbow.

I think my doctor is on to my depression…I went to pick up my medication from the pharmacy and when I was finally able to defeat the child lock, it was full of skittles.

Living in a medicated society is tough, telling people I want to pursue alternative medicine has often given way to conversations of the nauseating variety ( Chemo Not Included). I have found laughter therapy to be the best form of treatment there is.

We were born with the gift of laughter. Laughter is a natural medicine. It lifts our spirits and brings about a wave of catharsis that soothes the deepest of sorrows. Laughter is a contagious emotion. It can bring people together. It can help us feel more alive and empowered.

We should all take time to laugh more, especially at ourselves.

Operation Happy Happy Joy Joy: Meet Nadine!

Yes, I even ask my dates, what gives them hope.

Operation: Happy happy Joy Joy, takes to the streets of Manhattan to ask random people what gives them hope.

If you would like to participate yourself, (or send words of criticism) just send me a short video recording and I will post it on your behalf. please email me at stinkywizzleteats45@gmail.com

Operation Happy Happy Joy Joy. Meet Krystal!

Greetings All! Today I’m here with the Talented Actress/Model Krystal Woods! She has taken some time out of her Busy schedule to tell us what gives her hope!
For more info on Krystal, check out her Page! Facebook.com/woodskrystal01

Operation: Happy happy Joy Joy, takes to the streets of Manhattan to ask random people what gives them hope.
If you would like to participate yourself, (or send words of criticism) just send me a short video recording and I will post it on your behalf. please email me at stinkywizzleteats45@gmail.com

Operation Happy Happy Joy Joy: Meet Clint.

Operation Happy happy Joy Joy: meet clint!

Operation: Happy happy Joy Joy, takes to the streets of Manhattan to ask random people what gives them hope.
If you would like to participate yourself, (or send words of criticism) just send me a short video recording and I will post it on your behalf. please email me at stinkywizzleteats45@gmail.com

Operation happy happy Joy Joy. Meet Diana!

Meet Diana, this busy actress has taken time out of her insanely busy day to tell us what gives her hope!

Operation: Happy happy Joy Joy, takes to the streets of Manhattan to ask random people what gives them hope.
If you would like to participate yourself, (or send words of criticism) just send me a short video recording and I will post it on your behalf. please email me at stinkywizzleteats45@gmail.com

Operation Happy Happy Joy Joy! Meet Christina!

Hey Guys I have another submission! This time from the very talented blogger 4ever21christina. I feel so blessed and honored that she took time out of her crazy, busy schedule to tell us what gives her hope.
Christina, graduated in 2013, earning her Bachelor of Arts degree in Literature and Creative Writing. She has a total of 3 successful blogs that are much more impressive than mine!
Check them out!
http://www.4ever21christina.wordpress.com
http://everdayinspirationalquotes.wordpress.com/
http://iheartvocabulary.wordpress.com/

Operation: Happy happy Joy Joy, takes to the streets of Manhattan to ask random people what gives them hope. If you would like to participate yourself, (or send words of criticism) just send me a short video recording and I will post it on your behalf. please email me at stinkywizzleteats45@gmail.com

Operation: Essence

Today we have a submission from Author and Radio show host Essence Yarbrough. She takes time out of her busy schedule to tell us what gives her hope.
Operation: Happy happy Joy Joy, takes to the streets of Manhattan to ask random people what gives them hope.

If you’re interested in learning more about Essence and her radio series: Taboo Talks with Khamsin & Essence
here is the link. http://blogtalkradio.com/tabootalks

Furthermore, if you would like to participate yourself, (or send words of criticism) just send me a short video recording and I will post it on your behalf. please email me at stinkywizzleteats45@gmail.com