health

How to handle being Rejected after being diagnosed.

As we’ve spoken about in the past, there are no easy or right answers to any of the posts I make.  My fingers are still crossed that someday, someone will create a book titled              ” Handbook for the recently diagnosed” but until that day comes, ::cracks knuckles:: I will continue giving my unsolicited advice!

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Recently,  someone broke it off with me in the hospital, first she didn’t believed me because I didn’t reply to her text messages fast enough; probably because I was in the hospital.  She then proceeded to accuse me of Munchhausen syndrome until I showed her pictures and video chatted with her in the hospital. Finally, she called it off because   “it was too much drama”.  This is also someone who couldn’t miss an episode of Grey’s Anatomy, so the humor is not lost on me.

Now my first instinct was to put on my cape and cowl and demand justice but after a tumultuous nights sleep, I knew I needed to move on.

Remember the important people in your life, the people who have been there for you from through the hard times. Trust me, I know you’re mad, I know it hurts and I know it’s not fair. The best revenge is living the better life.

Imagine living in a world, where you are too afraid to love someone, just because you are afraid someone is going to die. In truth, I feel sorry for her, we’re all going to go at some point, but I don’t think wanting to live should be considered “Drama”

Remember to laugh,  do something new or old; go on a spontaneous adventure. For me, I love baking, seriously it’s a problem. I own so much flour my neighbors probably think I’m the reincarnation of Pablo Escobar. There’s something so cathartic about baking cookies and pies to me; it’s about control for me, the measurements have to be exactly right in order to have a great product.

Cry; ain’t nothing wrong with shedding a tear. As a man I’ve been taught to hold my tears back because it’s not considered “manly”. Whatever, I don’t ascribe to that toxic masculinity bullshit. Let it out man, it’s a part of the process and an important one at that.

Give yourself a reasonable time to talk about it. I would suggest a therapist if you don’t have one. Having said that, I know how expensive that can be. If that’s the case, I would suggest choosing a close friend to talk to about this.

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Never rely on a single person to give you a reason to live.  I don’t care how pretty they are, we all look silly putting our pants on one leg at a time. I know it’s easier said than done, but take this time away from your partner to realize what a catch you are. Also,  autonomy is important, while relationships are good, they also can mutate into co-dependency problems; so take advice from the former king of Pride Rock:

“Remember who you Are!” -Mufasa… R.I.P

After looking in a pool of your own glorious reflection for days or months, begin dating again. Love does exist, we just have a bigger hill to go up before we find it. The good thing, though, is that through this process, you will find the real people who will want to be in your life. People will always reveal their true selves to you during hard times; that’s our gift, that’s our curse but just like anything in life, it’s all in how you look at it.

Life is just a state of mind.

 

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Chemo, does a body good.

Chemo, does a body good.

Before I was diagnosed with cancer I weighed a hefty 245 pounds… I’m 5’6. Yeah… I was definitely a snickers bar away from being in a diabetic coma.
Surprisingly, I’m one of the few people who barely lost weight on chemo. I lost about 20 pounds, still big as a house i carried on as usual until my doctor who I thought was maybe 30, patted me on the stomach and asked me ” How long have you had that problem, son?” He then proceeded to boast about his age. Granted, he turned out to be 55, so either he is a time lord or he is the reason why we have not found the holy grail yet. I’m pretty sure it’s the ladder. Today, I have happily lost 130 pounds.

My point is ….your health is all you got at the end of the day and even though I still technically have these cancer cells within me I make it a point to be active, cook more and to continually educate myself on treatments. Take care of yourself beautiful people.

Chemosabe and other great adventures!

Chemosabe and other great adventures!

Sorry beautiful people for the hold up. I’ve been super busy, working on my FIRST feature film and attending film festivals for my last short film Chemo: A Love Story, A dark comedy about two cancer patients who fall in love in hospital. Now I’m back and will have some new operation: Hope, for you guys soon!

Also, My new web series Chemosabe will be preparing to hit the web soon. It tells the story of Myles, who has no choice but to restart chemotherapy when he finds out he’s no longer in remission, he also sees this as a second chance to reconnect with his past… Oh and Death is his best friend. The above is the first promo for Chemosabe. That’s right “sister,sister!” oh wait they’re actually twins… Damn.
Take care friends.

Operation Happy Happy Joy Joy: Meet Nadine!

Yes, I even ask my dates, what gives them hope.

Operation: Happy happy Joy Joy, takes to the streets of Manhattan to ask random people what gives them hope.

If you would like to participate yourself, (or send words of criticism) just send me a short video recording and I will post it on your behalf. please email me at stinkywizzleteats45@gmail.com

Operation Happy Happy Joy Joy. Meet Krystal!

Greetings All! Today I’m here with the Talented Actress/Model Krystal Woods! She has taken some time out of her Busy schedule to tell us what gives her hope!
For more info on Krystal, check out her Page! Facebook.com/woodskrystal01

Operation: Happy happy Joy Joy, takes to the streets of Manhattan to ask random people what gives them hope.
If you would like to participate yourself, (or send words of criticism) just send me a short video recording and I will post it on your behalf. please email me at stinkywizzleteats45@gmail.com

Operation Happy Happy Joy Joy: Meet Clint.

Operation Happy happy Joy Joy: meet clint!

Operation: Happy happy Joy Joy, takes to the streets of Manhattan to ask random people what gives them hope.
If you would like to participate yourself, (or send words of criticism) just send me a short video recording and I will post it on your behalf. please email me at stinkywizzleteats45@gmail.com

Operation happy happy Joy Joy. Meet Diana!

Meet Diana, this busy actress has taken time out of her insanely busy day to tell us what gives her hope!

Operation: Happy happy Joy Joy, takes to the streets of Manhattan to ask random people what gives them hope.
If you would like to participate yourself, (or send words of criticism) just send me a short video recording and I will post it on your behalf. please email me at stinkywizzleteats45@gmail.com

Operation Happy Happy Joy Joy! Meet Christina!

Hey Guys I have another submission! This time from the very talented blogger 4ever21christina. I feel so blessed and honored that she took time out of her crazy, busy schedule to tell us what gives her hope.
Christina, graduated in 2013, earning her Bachelor of Arts degree in Literature and Creative Writing. She has a total of 3 successful blogs that are much more impressive than mine!
Check them out!
http://www.4ever21christina.wordpress.com
http://everdayinspirationalquotes.wordpress.com/
http://iheartvocabulary.wordpress.com/

Operation: Happy happy Joy Joy, takes to the streets of Manhattan to ask random people what gives them hope. If you would like to participate yourself, (or send words of criticism) just send me a short video recording and I will post it on your behalf. please email me at stinkywizzleteats45@gmail.com

Operation: Essence

Today we have a submission from Author and Radio show host Essence Yarbrough. She takes time out of her busy schedule to tell us what gives her hope.
Operation: Happy happy Joy Joy, takes to the streets of Manhattan to ask random people what gives them hope.

If you’re interested in learning more about Essence and her radio series: Taboo Talks with Khamsin & Essence
here is the link. http://blogtalkradio.com/tabootalks

Furthermore, if you would like to participate yourself, (or send words of criticism) just send me a short video recording and I will post it on your behalf. please email me at stinkywizzleteats45@gmail.com